We’re looking forward to introducing you to Frank Ambrosino. Check out our conversation below.
Hi Frank , thank you so much for joining us today. We’re thrilled to learn more about your journey, values and what you are currently working on. Let’s start with an ice breaker: What are you being called to do now, that you may have been afraid of before?
Sharing my story with men especially, and others, about my years of abuse as a young preteen that culminated with my kidnapping and rape in another state. I feel is important for men in particular to know it’s ok, to talk about it.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is Frank. I own Target Life Group, a Coaching business that provides Coaching and counseling in all areas of life and challenges as well as business start ups and business growth. Success is what we make it. In both life and business. However, things of our past can influence our successes without us even being aware of the hidden or buried hinderences, hurts or fears, or the inability to reach goals or bring change we want, need and desire. As part of my goals, Im working on producing a series called “The Comeback Chronicles”. It’s an opportunity for others to share their stories about their past traumas, failures and their times of wanting to give up, but found that one thing that motivated them to fight and make a comeback in life. After hiding my two years of abuse that culminated in my kidnapping and rape, I finally lost all shame and embarrassment after 50 years of feeling trapped I found that freedom is our choice.
Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. What was your earliest memory of feeling powerful?
That night of my kidnapping and rape. When my abuser was finished with me. Something snapped. I finally had enough. I believe now I was in a state of shock. I realized what he had done. I lost all hope of a normal life and just didn’t want this anymore. A fit of rage came over me. I screamed at him to kill me. That I was done with his abuse. Two years of beatings, having alcohol forced down my throat, beatings and so much more. Living in fear of his threats. That if I ever said a word he’d hurt my mom and sister. But that night, I knew I couldn’t go on with it any longer. I was worn out. I wanted it to end even if it meant my life. As I screamed at him I’ve had enough, begging him to kill me, while hitting him, I remember him trying to console me. I didn’t want consoling. I wanted to die or go home. He, seeming confused and shocked at my rebellion, looking so surprised and caught off gaurd, took me home. I, at that point finally felt a tiny surge of power. Still full of uncertainties, am I going to make it home? Is it really going to stop? Coupled with thoughts of why my dad couldn’t love me or be there to rescue me. I was feeling so alone, even with the smallest glimmer of hope, yet my mind filled with a thousand thoughts, and the one that said maybe, just maybe, I’m going to make it.
What have been the defining wounds of your life—and how have you healed them?
The defining wounds were the years of abuse. They kept me held captive. It was like a shadow. Always there over my shoulder. It caused me to feel broken, less than, and created an insecurity that caused me to be non confrontational. Other insecurities like abandonment syndrome. Obtaining a job that i couldn’t keep or want due to fear of male leadership. Or just like that night, not being home at my safe place caused me to suffer with severe separation syndrome. I couldn’t be trapped in a job in case those feelings of needing to be home at my safe place hit me. So I had to become a entrepreneur, which I was good at, but for all the wrong reasons. I needed to be in control of every second of my life, place and thing. So finally, in speaking my story. Owning it. Realizing it is my story, my story that I didn’t write, but I lived through, a story that I can and should help others with, one I can embrace, I started to climb out of my pit. I sought help in overcoming it. I became proud I lived through it. I found the freedom that gave me the opportunity to write the ending the way I want it to be. Without any more shame or embarrassment. My story that says, it’s ok. It wasn’t my fault. I made it through. Im still working through it, and that’s ok. Now I’m helping others write their ending the way they want and deserve to, in hopes that they as well gain their healing, victory and peace in owning it. I now speak publicly, with confidence, spreading hope.
Alright, so if you are open to it, let’s explore some philosophical questions that touch on your values and worldview. What would your closest friends say really matters to you?
People would say loving people unconditionally. Seeing past their past. Casting no judgment. Actually seeing the real them and helping them to see what i see. I don’t believe people want to be bad in general. Even those that offend us. Maybe they have a story worst then ours. Maybe they are living under effect. So how can we judge or cast them aside, or even think we are better then them. My rapist for example. I have forgiven him. He’s still lives in Maryland. My turning point was the realization that I can’t imagine anyone wanting to be messed up just to be messed up. There has to be underlying circumstances that caused those effects in their life. So is it their fault? Where there was a day I prayed for him to burn in hell, I now pray that he finds peace, joy, forgiveness and salvation through God. We all deserve it.
Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. What do you understand deeply that most people don’t?
That forgiveness is the most powerful thing they can discover. It’s freedom. No matter what or who, truly forgiving others for what they have done breaks the chains that keep us held captive. Until we forgive, that “thing” will always be in the back of our minds. It’s not easy. But we deserve to forgive so that we aren’t held prisoner by it any longer. But forgiveness means no more being affected by it. No more thinking on it in a negative way, but in a free way. Yes. It happened. Yes, it affected me. And maybe im still working through it. But without the shackles. Without wrestling with the thought of why it happened and trying to fix it. But with the thought, it’s part of my story and I get to write the ending.
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- Website: https://Targetlifegroup.com
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