DESTINY MCKOY shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
DESTINY, really appreciate you sharing your stories and insights with us. The world would have so much more understanding and empathy if we all were a bit more open about our stories and how they have helped shaped our journey and worldview. Let’s jump in with a fun one: What is a normal day like for you right now?
Most days, I’m up around 6 a.m. for prayer and devotion, it’s my quiet time to get centered before the day really starts. After that, I check emails and go over what’s on my list.
By 8 a.m., I usually head to the gym for about an hour while my kids do their morning routine at home. This summer’s been a little more relaxed, so we’ve had the flexibility to go on some fun adventures late morning or early afternoon, which I’ve loved.
Once we’re back, I dive into work, whether that’s content, admin, prepping for the new homeschool year, or connecting with the moms in my coaching community or membership. Some days I have coaching calls or planning sessions in the afternoon too.
Evenings are family time, dinner, hanging out, and our nighttime routine. After the kids go down, I try to finish up any lingering tasks or housework by 10 p.m. so my husband and I can still have time to connect before bed.
Our morning and evening routines stay pretty consistent year-round, but during the school year, our afternoons are a little more structured depending on what the day calls for. Overall, it’s a balance of structure and grace and it works for us.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hey! I’m Destiny McKoy, Mom and Wife, your Kingdom Homeschool Strategist and founder of Destined for Greatness Homeschooling. We are a faith-rooted movement helping moms rediscover who they are while raising the next generation of leaders.
What started as me simply obeying God’s nudge to homeschool turned into a full-blown mission. I realized that so many moms were trying to build their homes, businesses, and families but doing it from a place of burnout, identity loss, and isolation. So I created what I wish I had: a space where moms are equipped, encouraged, and reminded that they are not just moms, they are the foundation.
Right now, I’m preparing to re-launch our Mom Collective with the amazing enhancement of “Mom School”, a 9-month coaching experience that helps moms create structure, rediscover their identity, and walk boldly in their God-given assignments. I’m also continuing to grow our local homeschool community for kids, which includes leadership workshops, events, and family meetups here in Maryland.
At the heart of it all is this: when a mom is supported, everything she’s building becomes stronger. I’m determined to show my children, and every mom watching, that motherhood isn’t a hindrance to your calling… it’s the motivation to walk in it.
Great, so let’s dive into your journey a bit more. What part of you has served its purpose and must now be released?
The timid version of me.
As a little girl, I was full of energy, bubbly, creative, always dreaming something up. But somewhere along the way, I started to believe that who I was… was just too much. Too loud. Too ambitious. Too different.
I learned that if I only shared parts of myself, if I kept my gifts, dreams, and talents tucked away than I’d be easier for people to accept. I dealt with jealousy and comparison often enough that I thought the safest thing I could do was blend in. So I tried to make myself smaller. Simpler. Easier to digest.
But there came a point when I realized I couldn’t stay that way.
As I was asking God to show me who I really was, I felt Him asking me to start showing up like I believed Him. That meant making a decision. A decision to stop hiding, stop shrinking, and start stepping into the woman He was calling me to become.
That timid version of me served a purpose. She helped me survive when I didn’t fully understand my identity. But now that I know who I am and whose I am… I’ve released her. Because walking in purpose requires your full self, not the edited version.
If you could say one kind thing to your younger self, what would it be?
I’d tell her, “You don’t have to do the most to be loved, and you don’t have to hide the parts that make people uncomfortable just to fit in.”
For so long, I thought the safest way to be accepted was to hide the parts of me that were “too much” and go all-in on the parts that people liked. I became really good at showing up where I felt celebrated and shrinking in the spaces where I didn’t feel fully seen. But the truth is, God made me multifaceted on purpose. And I didn’t need to overcompensate in one area just because I felt like I had to tone myself down in another.
If I could go back, I’d remind her that her presence alone is enough. She doesn’t have to perform, prove, or play small. And one day, she’ll learn how to be fully herself without apology.
Next, maybe we can discuss some of your foundational philosophies and views? What important truth do very few people agree with you on?
That motherhood isn’t supposed to be your only identity.
Somewhere along the way, we were taught that once you become a mom, that’s who you are now…period. Your dreams take a backseat. Your gifts get shelved. You’re expected to find full fulfillment in being “just mom.”
And while motherhood is one of the most powerful callings there is, it was never meant to erase the woman behind it.
I believe seasons shift. There are times when your family needs more of your focus, and that’s okay. But even in those seasons, you’re not meant to lose yourself. You may have to pause certain things but your identity, your voice, your purpose? That doesn’t go away.
You don’t have to choose between being a present mom and a purpose-driven woman. You can honor your role as a mother and still build something meaningful.
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. What do you think people will most misunderstand about your legacy?
I think people see the work I’m doing with moms and homeschool families and assume my goal is to just grow a platform or make a name for myself but it’s deeper than that.
Yes, I want to make an impact. I want to reach moms across the world and help families thrive in their homeschooling journey. But at the core of it all? My legacy starts at home.
I want my kids to grow up with a strong foundation not just in faith, but in practical life. I want them to understand entrepreneurship, financial literacy, emotional intelligence, and what it looks like to walk confidently in their calling.
We’re not just homeschooling to check off boxes, we’re using this time to pour into them intentionally, so they don’t spend years trying to figure out who they are. I want them to grow up already walking in it.
This legacy is about more than what I build publicly. It’s about my children knowing that with God, you really can make a difference in your home, in your community, and in the world.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.destinedforgreatnesshomeschooling.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/destinedforgreatnesshomeschool/
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/destiny-mckoy/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Destinedforgreatnesshomeschooling/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@destinedforgreatnesshomeschool
Image Credits
Jeff Brooks – Family Photo at our Homeschool Field Day ’25
