Loveli Brown shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Loveli, a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: Have any recent moments made you laugh or feel proud?
This past year has been one of the most transformative and joy-filled seasons of my life. I became a grandmother, a title that fills my heart in ways words can hardly describe. It’s a constant reminder of legacy, love, and the beauty of nurturing the next generation.
At the same time, my podcast, Healing Through Conversations with Loveli Brown, has continued to grow in ways that truly humble me. What started as a heartfelt mission to create a safe space for honest dialogue and emotional healing has blossomed into a well-regarded platform that reaches people across the country, and even beyond.
Recently, PR companies have begun reaching out to me to have their clients appear on the podcast. That’s an incredible compliment and a moment of deep gratitude. It tells me that people see the value in what we’re building, a community rooted in warmth, truth, connection, and collective healing.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m Loveli Brown, Founder and Owner of LoveliEsteem, LLC, Certified Life, Relationship, and Entrepreneur Coach, and host of the Healing Through Conversations Podcast, a heart-centered space for real talk, mental health advocacy, and stories of resilience. I’m also a four-time published author passionate about guiding women through emotional healing, confidence rebuilding, and rediscovering self-trust after betrayal.
Through LoveliEsteem, I help women heal from the inside out by combining holistic mental health practices, emotional education, and empowerment tools. My company was born during the pandemic, when I saw how many people were struggling silently with their mental health and self-worth. What started as a small community of healing and purpose planning has evolved into a movement, offering courses, guides, and coaching programs that help women reclaim their voice, confidence, and peace.
Great, so let’s dive into your journey a bit more. What relationship most shaped how you see yourself?
The relationship that most shaped how I see myself was the one I shared with my late uncle, a gay man who lived his truth boldly, joyfully, and without apology. His presence in my life was a gift that continues to guide me today.
From a young age, he gave me permission to embrace all of who I am, to be as girly as I wanted to be, as loving as I wanted to be, as kind as I wanted to be, and as free as I could be, safely. He never tried to contain my spirit or quiet my shine. Instead, he nurtured it. He showed me that authenticity wasn’t something to be feared; it was something to be celebrated.
Watching him live authentically in a world that often demanded conformity was a quiet act of courage, and one that shaped the foundation of my confidence and compassion. Through his example, I learned that being yourself is, in many ways, a rebellion. It’s a refusal to shrink, to hide, or to apologize for existing fully.
Even now, I carry his lessons with me. Every time I choose honesty over perfection, joy over judgment, and truth over fear, I feel his spirit beside me, reminding me that living freely is the greatest form of resistance.
I continue to rebel every day, not out of defiance, but out of love, for him, for myself, and for the generations who deserve to see what freedom truly looks like.
What’s something you changed your mind about after failing hard?
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life came after my marriage begin to fall apart. For years, I struggled to understand what healthy communication truly looked like. I thought love alone could hold everything together, but love without understanding, vulnerability, and boundaries can only go so far. When my marriage became toxic, it felt like failure, raw, painful, and humbling.
But over time, I realized that failure wasn’t the end. It was an invitation to begin again, to pivot, to grow, and to build something new from a place of awareness rather than fear. I had to let go of old habits, old patterns, and the idea that the next version of love needed to look like the one that came before.
I changed my mind about what it means to “start over.” It’s not about erasing your past; it’s about learning from it. It’s about honoring what didn’t work, forgiving yourself, and creating space for a love that reflects who you are becoming, not who you used to be.
Now, I understand that healing changes how you love. A healthier mindset creates a healthier environment for love to grow, one that makes room for deeper connection, mutual respect, and boundaries that protect peace instead of pride.
I learned that sometimes failure isn’t a breakdown, it’s a breakthrough. And on the other side of that heartbreak is the chance to build something more honest, more peaceful, and more aligned with your healing self.
I think our readers would appreciate hearing more about your values and what you think matters in life and career, etc. So our next question is along those lines. What are the biggest lies your industry tells itself?
One of the biggest lies I’ve seen in the mental health and self-improvement industry is the belief that there’s only one right way to heal. We’re constantly told that if we’re not signing up for the next $4,000 course, attending the most luxurious retreat, or practicing self-care seven days a week, 365 days a year, then somehow we’re failing ourselves.
But here’s the truth: healing doesn’t look the same for everyone, and it shouldn’t. The pressure to fit into the “perfect healing journey” can actually make people feel worse. I’ve seen clients and colleagues alike pushed into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode simply because they’re trying to keep up with unrealistic expectations disguised as “wellness.”
Healing isn’t a trend. It’s personal. It’s cultural. It’s deeply human. What self-care looks like for me might not look anything like what it looks like for you, and that’s okay. For some, it’s therapy and journaling. For others, it’s prayer, community, laughter, or a simple walk in silence.
We have to start honoring the different ways people heal, especially when those ways are rooted in their culture, values, and lived experiences. Healing isn’t about performance; it’s about permission, permission to redefine what wholeness means for you.
The real work of healing begins when we stop comparing and start connecting, not to the next big thing, but to ourselves.
Thank you so much for all of your openness so far. Maybe we can close with a future oriented question. Are you doing what you were born to do—or what you were told to do?
If I’m being honest, I don’t believe I’m doing exactly what I was born to do, or what I was told to do. I’m doing what I’m guided to do.
For me, purpose isn’t a single destination. It’s a spiritual path that unfolds over time, shaped by experiences, heartbreaks, and moments of grace. Your calling changes as you do. Some days, you feel completely aligned; other days, you’re just trying to make it through without losing faith in yourself. And that’s okay.
There was a time when I thought purpose had to look perfect, that I had to have everything figured out, be in the right place, and do all the “right” things. But life taught me otherwise. Sometimes, you don’t fully understand your purpose because you’re still being prepared for it. Sometimes, low self-esteem, fear, or the weight of your circumstances can make you forget how capable you are.
Over the years, I’ve learned that healing is an eternal journey. As someone who works in mental health, helping others build confidence and rediscover who they are, I know that growth never truly ends. We’re all evolving, and that’s the beauty of it.
So no, I’m not doing what I was told to do, and I’m not claiming to have reached what I was born to do either. But I am walking the path I’m meant to be on, one guided by faith, purpose, and the quiet belief that as long as God gives me direction, I’ll keep showing up.
Even if it’s just for one person who needs what I have to give in that moment, that, to me, is divine purpose in motion.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.loveliesteem.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveliesteem/?hl=en
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveli-brown-28969a201
- Youtube: https://youtube.com/@loveliesteem?si=FMAPc_k4TA5gqSUs
- Other: https://linktr.ee/loveliesteem
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Image Credits
Credit: Loveli Brown, Perspectives by Tia, Morgan Brown
